How We Do Things

How We Do Things
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How folks do things,
how they communicate,
how they make decisions,
how they act,
can be
startling
disappointing
infuriating
saddening
surprising
confusing
shocking
and
we react to their action
with
anger
rejection
blame
hurt
demands
abandon
judgement.

We really don’t know,
why people do what they do,
or the instances leading up
to their behavior, action and decisions.

We don’t know the grief that they live with,
the guilt and shame,
their own sense of inadequacy,
and the fear and pressure,
that rests on their brain and in their hearts,
which propels them to act.  

We don’t know what made them run,
change directions,
make other choices,
and carry it all out,
the way they did.

We just stick to our experience.
We stick to our feelings and responses.
And the world,
starts and ends there.